Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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As a boy, Zachary Zane sensed that all was not right when images of his therapist naked popped into his head. He sometimes imagined other people naked, too, and without an explanation why, a deep sense of shame pervaded these thoughts. Though his therapist assured him a little imagination was nothing to be ashamed of, over the years, society told him otherwise.

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Zachary Zane . . . has written this refreshing collection of personal essays as an effort to get to the root of the sexual shame that runs rampant in American culture and help others lead more shame-free lives. Accessible, engaging, and genuinely hilarious, these essays are as titillating as they are educational. * BUZZFEED, 24 of the Most Anticipated LGBTQ+ Books of 2023 *
From sharing how a sex toy saved his love life to detailing his polyamory journey, Zachary Zane, a sex columnist for Mens Health and Cosmopolitan US, has made his name in witty entries about his life. A self-described memoir and manifesto Zane pours his life lessons into easy, accessible essays, tackling subjects of bisexuality, STIs, sexual shame and much more. Youll put down Boyslut having learned a little more about the ways we discuss sexuality and, thanks to Zanes colourful anecdotes, enjoy some sex-positive storytelling. -- Zoya Raza-Sheikh * GAY TIMES, The 10 best LGBTQ+ books of 2023 *
Zane pushes the envelope . . . His arguments about the complications of bisexual visibility are particularly salient. * PUBLISHERS WEEKLY *
The author succeeds at candidly detailing and measuring the value of his sexual exploits . . . Zane provides an enlightening glossary of common and lesser-known sexual terminology . . . His emphatic discourses on erotic liberation, the misunderstood bisexual community, and overcoming sexual shame are credible and noteworthy. * KIRKUS REVIEWS *
Zane [] is making a name for himself among sex writers as a candid and unflinching purveyor of sexual diversity." * THE CINCINNATI REVIEW *
[A] lively examination of all things sexual . . . His observations are lucid, fearlessly candid, informative, and, well, wise. This doesnt mean they are in any way didacticthey're always accessible, often funny, and, best of all, they leave the reader with the admonishment that being kind doesnt cost you a dime. * BOOKLIST *
An exercise in shamelessness (thats a point of pride for Zane and should not be read as an insult), the book details the vast sex life of the bisexual writer. Most fascinating, I thought, was the casual way it traced Zanes sexual evolution, from considering himself straight to bicurious to bi to polyamorous. Landing on an identity need not be ones final stopit can be just the step before the next one, and part of the point of life (at least in my opinion) is to keep growing. Come, watch Zachary Zane grow. * JEZEBEL *
Companionable, astute, hilarious, honest, and heartfelt. * ATTITUDE MAGAZINE *
Cocky, comic, and clearly heartfelt, Boyslut offers a vision of non-toxic modern masculinity that allows for all the quirks, kinks, and fetishes ones dirty mind desires. * PASSPORT MAGAZINE *
Zachary Zane is a FABULOUS queer writer and thinker whos doing the Lords work by promoting bi-visibility, teaching the children about polyamory, and helping the LGBTQ+ communityand really, all peoplelearn how to become their best authentic selves. * BILLY PORTER, actor, singer, and author *
Zachary Zane is one of the best sex writers working today. He has a unique ability to balance humor with a deep appreciation for the vulnerability and humanity of his subjects. And reading about Zanes own sexual adventures is like getting invited to Sunday brunch by your wittiest, sluttiest, funniest friend and getting to listen to him recount his crazy weekend. * DAN SAVAGE, sex columnist and New York Times bestselling author *
In a world where sexuality and masculinity are often misunderstood and conflated, Zachary Zane manages to use his own unique experiences to knock down stigmas and expand what it means to have a healthy relationship with sex. His honest approach is a welcome reprieve from the messages of our youth and his self-exploration not only encourages but enables us to do our own. * ALLISON RASKIN, podcaster and New York Times bestselling author *
Zachary is so adept at creating and maintaining exuberant and generative community in spaces that typically feel isolating or forbidding. In the same way, his writing is an invitation that bridges divides. I live for his verve, his no-holds-barred revelations, and his wisdom. * R. ERIC THOMAS, national bestselling author *
As charming as it is singular, Zachary's voice is one that is sorely needed in culture. His honesty, candor, analysis, and erotic chaos are a blessing to us all. * JACOB TOBIA, national bestselling author *

Author Bio

Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ+ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Hes also the coauthor of Mens Health: Best. Sex. Ever.

He has two columns: Sexplain It the sex and relationship advice column at Mens Health and Navigating Non-Monogamy at Cosmo, where he shares all the mistakes hes made in his polyamory journey, so you dont have to.

He is also the founder and editor in chief of Boyslut zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. His work on sexuality and relationships has been published in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, the Washington Post, GQ, OUT, and many others.