Dear Diary Boy: An Exacting Mother, Her Free-spirited Son, and Their Bittersweet Adventures in an Elite Japanese School

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"A heart-wrenching, revelatory and shocking memoir that opens a fascinating window into the world of traditional Japanese education." Amy Chua, author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and Political Tribes

An intensely personal, heartwarming, and heartbreaking chronicle of one mother and childs struggle to fit in at a prestigious private elementary school in Japan.

When her five-year-old son passed the rigorous entrance exams to one of Japan's top private elementary schools, Makihara, a single mother, thought they were on their way. Taro would wear the historic dark blue uniform and learn alongside other little Einsteins while she basked in the glory of his high achievements with the other perfect moms. Together they would climb the rungs into the country's successful elite.

But it didn't turn out that way. Taro had other things in mind. While set in Japan, their struggles in the school's hyper-competitive environment mirror those faced by parents here in the US and raise the same questions about the best way to educate a childespecially one that doesnt quite fit the mold. Public or private Competitive or nurturing Standardized or individualized. Helicopter parenting or free-range Amid this frenzied debate, how does one find balance and maintain a healthy parent-child relationship

Dear Diary Boy is an intensely personal, heartwarming, and heartbreaking chronicle of one mother and child's experience in a prestigious private Tokyo school. It's a tale that will resonate with all parents as we try to answer the age-old questions of how best to educate our children and what, truly, is in their best interests versus what is in our own.

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"Dear Diary Boy is a heart-wrenching, revelatory and shocking memoir that opens a fascinating window into the world of traditional Japanese education. Kumiko Makihara tells a beautiful and universal story of the hard choices so many women face and the depth of a mothers love." Amy Chua, Yale Law Professor and author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and Political Tribes

"A vivid insider's look at education and mothering in Japan.Kumiko Makiharas recently published memoir Dear Diary Boy might well come with a trigger warning for parents of school-aged children in Japan. Many will be able to relate to the references to heaps of homework, judgmental parents and teachers, long lists of things that children must bring to school each day and the frustrations of getting kids to comply with parents demands.. . .A book about one persons struggles and how she responded and learned from her experiences."The Japan Times

"To straddle two cultures is to feel always, to some extent, a stranger; add in the strange country of motherhood, and things become even more difficult. Kumiko Makihara's memoiranguished, defiant, joyful, and unflinchingly honestis difficult to read but harder to put down. In our increasingly hybrid global culture, it is an important story." Janice P. Nimura, author of Daughters of the Samurai: A Journey from East to West and Back

"Kumiko Makihara has written a spare, thoughtful gem of a book about the education of her charming if exasperating son that should be read by anyone interested in modern Japan. It speaks volumes about motherhood, boyhood, cross-cultural adjustment and the power of conformism and parental ambition everywhere." Jonathan Alter, author of The Center Holds: Obama and His Enemies

A compulsively readable memoir that is at once horrifying and hysterical. This cautionary tale reveals volumes about Japan and about mothering. Barbara Demick, author of Nothing to Envy

Kumiko Makiharas eloquent memoir offers a rare glimpse into Japanese parenting from deep inside. She is a conscientious mother jumping to meet the challenges thrown her way by an elite Tokyo school, but the struggles are daunting, as she and her son search for their own place in the system. At once moving, distressing, hilarious and very informative. Stacy Perman, author of In-N-Out Burger and A Grand Complication

"Hilarious and poignant. Any parent swept up in our testing culture will understand how Kumiko Makiharas hopes and dreams gave way to the insanity of competition in a Japanese elementary school. And they will marvel at Taros refreshing oblivion to the crazy culture in which he is immersed." Debbie Stier, author of The Perfect Score Project

"Compulsively readable, hilarious and hopeful, Kumiko Makihara's memoir tells two storiesone of a mother and son traversing the treacherous 21st century terrain of private educationthe other of a sensitive writer whose own creative spark was nearly extinguished by culture, society, gender and her own well-meaning parents. With writing that is lyrical and emotional but without an ounce of sentimentality, she captures the fleeting wonder of childhood and the particular pain of a parent tasked with ushering that spirit into the realities of adulthood. A must-read for any parent who's ever wondered when to step in and when to step back." Kathryn Bowers, author of Zoobiquity

"Dear Diary Boy is a poignant story of the lengths a mother will go for her son. It's also an insightful portrayal of the conformity of Japanese society. Anyone who has ever felt like an outsider will relate to Kumiko Makihara's book."Elliott Holt, You Are One of Them

"Dear Diary Boy is a wrenching,deeply personal and compulsively readable love letter from a single mother to her adopted son. Makihara swings between anger, love, guilt, remorse and occasionally desperation as she tries to plot a path for her son through Japan's familial and schooling strictures. The book is both a cross-cultural battle cry for would-be 'Tiger Mothers' everywhere, and a warning about the emotional rollercoaster ride when you feel you are falling short.--Richard McGregor author ofAsias Reckoning: China, Japan, and the Fate of US Power in the Pacific Century
"Dear Diary Boy is a heart-wrenching, revelatory and shocking memoir that opens a fascinating window into the world of traditional Japanese education. Kumiko Makihara tells a beautiful and universal story of the hard choices so many women face and the depth of a mothers love." Amy Chua, Yale Law Professor and author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother and Political Tribes

"To straddle two cultures is to feel always, to some extent, a stranger; add in the strange country of motherhood, and things become even more difficult. Kumiko Makihara's memoir--anguished, defiant, joyful, and unflinchingly honest--is difficult to read but harder to put down. In our increasingly hybrid global culture, it is an important story."Janice P. Nimura, author of Daughters of the Samurai: A Journey from East to West and Back

"Kumiko Makihara has written a spare, thoughtful gem of a book about the education of her charming if exasperating son that should be read by anyone interested in modern Japan. It speaks volumes about motherhood, boyhood, cross-cultural adjustment and the power of conformism and parental ambition everywhere."Jonathan Alter, author of The Center Holds: Obama and His Enemies

Kumiko Makiharas eloquent memoir offers a rare glimpse into Japanese parenting from deep inside. She is a conscientious mother jumping to meet the challenges thrown her way by an elite Tokyo school, but the struggles are daunting, as she and her son search for their own place in the system. At once moving, distressing, hilarious and very informative. Stacy Perman, author of In-N-Out Burger and A Grand Complication

"Hilarious and poignant. Any parent swept up in our testing culture will understand how Kumiko Makiharas hopes and dreams gave way to the insanity of competition in a Japanese elementary school. And they will marvel at Taros refreshing oblivion to the crazy culture in which he is immersed."Debbie Stier, author of The Perfect Score Project

"Compulsively readable, hilarious and hopeful, Kumiko Makihara's memoir tells two storiesone of a mother and son traversing the treacherous 21st century terrain of private educationthe other of a sensitive writer whose own creative spark was nearly extinguished by culture, society, gender and her own well-meaning parents. With writing that is lyrical and emotional but without an ounce of sentimentality, she captures the fleeting wonder of childhood and the particular pain of a parent tasked with ushering that spirit into the realities of adulthood. A must-read for any parent who's ever wondered when to step in and when to step back." Kathryn Bowers, author of Zoobiquity

"Dear Diary Boy is a poignant story of the lengths a mother will go for her son. It's also an insightful portrayal of the conformity of Japanese society. Anyone who has ever felt like an outsider will relate to Kumiko Makihara's book." Elliott Holt, You Are One of Them

Author Bio

Kumiko Makihara s work has appeared in the International Herald Tribune, the New York Times Magazine and Newsweek, as well as in the books Reimagining Japan: The Quest for a Future That Works and Tsunami: Japan s Post Fukushima Future. She previously was a reporter for Time Magazine and the Associated Press and a features editor at the Moscow Times. She resides in New York City and Tokyo.