Fifty First Dates After Fifty: A Memoir

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What does a free-spirited, fifty-something professional do when she breaks up with her non-committal Buddhist boyfriend and longs for a life partner She holds a letting go ceremony with the boyfriend, challenges herself to go on 50 dates, takes a few lovers, and voila! Finding Mr. Right becomes a sexy dating project.

Set in the SF Bay Area world of personal growth workshops and spiritual ceremonies, Fifty First Dates after Fifty traces the adventurous path of Carolyns universal quest for love. The goal of fifty pulls her forward through the highs and lows of datingmagical and ecstatic, pining and painfulwhile her heart soars, falls, and keeps on going. Buoyed by her dating project, she avoids settling for the wrong guy, discovers the type of man she wants, reconciles a love of independence and sex with her desire for commitment and emotional connection, and finds the unique partner for her.

This upbeat memoir about the search for a partner in midlife is also a celebration of a womans unabashed sexuality. Erotic in places, funny in others, it offers a positive view of dating as an enjoyable journey of self-discovery and self-love along the way to ones own Mr. Right.

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2022 Zibby Awards: Best Dedication
2022 Living Now Book Awards Gold Medalist in Relationships / Marriage
2022 International Book Awards (IBA):Winner in Womens Issues/Womens Studies Finalist in Nonfiction: Narrative and in New Age: Nonfiction
2022 Independent PublisherBook Awards (IPPYs): Gold Medalin Sexuality/Relationships
2022 Human RelationsIndie Book Awards:Gold inMotivational Memoir
Silver in PersonalRelationships Memoir
Silver in Inspirational
2022 Next Generation Indie Book Awards: Finalist in Memoir (Other)
2021 Northern California Publishers & Authors Book Awards: Gold for Cover/Interior Design
2021 Chanticleer Hearten Book Awards: Finalist, Uplifting and Inspiring Non-Fiction and Memoir
2021 Chanticleer Mind & Spirit Book Awards: Short List, Enlightenment & Well-being Non-Fiction
2021 Best Book Awards: Finalist inNew Age: Non-Fiction
2021 Firebird BookAwards: First Place inMemoir, Relationships,Sexuality, and New AgeCulture

A memoir about seeking romance in midlife, Carolyn Lee ArnoldsFifty First Dates after Fiftyis genuine as it recounts a period of trying out new relationships and investigating spirituality.Arnold is an accessible and conversational guide.
Foreword

an uplifting, enjoyable read destined for women who are still open to finding love and being intimate with men until they find the right partners ... an inspirational dating book that teaches women how to date and find a long-term equal partner ... a well-written, sexy, and easy-to-read memoir that would appeal to women of all ages.
Reader's Favorite, 4 stars

...an upbeat true story about one womans search for love in her fifties. Carolyn Lee Arnold reminds readers they are never too old to find love and happiness, all they have to do is take a chance.It also reminds readers [that] dating can be enjoyable even if it never progresses to a second date.
Entrada

This is no mere memoir, but a handbook on how to date the adult way. By reading Arnold's entertaining and upbeat story of voracious exploration, Generation X, Y, and Z can learn everything no one ever taught them about effective communication, self-care, emotional responsibility, and joyful sexual freedom. If dating is in your future, this inspirational book is for you.
Robin Rinaldi, author ofThe Wild Oats Project: One Womans Midlife Quest for Passion at Any Cost

This book will have great appeal to other seekersmen and womenespecially those who are older or long for a deep sensual connection to others. Carolyn is such a role model for other middle-aged womenunafraid, unabashedly sensual and assertive. I love how brave and brazen she is!!
Julia Scheeres, author of theNew York Timesbest-selling memoirJesus Land

Carolyns goal of fifty dates was a brilliant way to find a partner, and her communication skills, honesty, and appreciative regard for her dates would help anyone - not only in dating, but in all one's relationships.
Chas August, Relationship & Intimacy Coach

Carolyn Arnold's dating stories inFifty First Dates After Fiftywill be inspiring for any woman who worries that life has passed her by and that it's too late to attract a life partner. There will be bad dates, broken hearts and dashed expectationsand some hot fun along the way. Carolyn's stories of dating resilience and persistence show us that finding a deep love is possible at every age.
Sasha Cagen, feminist life coach and author ofQuirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics

Fifty First Dates after Fiftyis not your typical dating book. Carolyn boldly shares the raw vulnerabilities of being a person truly living life on her own terms. Youll be rooting for Carolyn all the way through as she tries, fails, feels, picks herself up, dusts herself off, and courageously moves forward into her next new adventure.. .. . . funny and engaging . . . I was hooked at the prologue. You will be too.
Wendy Newman, author of121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily Ever After (Really!)

"Fifty First Dates After Fiftyis a frolicking, often racy, memoir. a fast, fun read. Arnolds prose is clever, engaging, and confident. Arnold is unabashedly sensual and liberated throughout in terms of her approach to sexuality and what constitutes a fulfilling relationship.
Story Circle Network

Blending memoir and self-help, Arnold offers a quick, refreshingand surprisingly pro-sexread about redefining relationships and expectations in a monogamous-normative world.
Booklife

Author Bio

Carolyn Lee Arnold drew upon her thirty years as a social science researcher and ten years as a relationship workshop assistant to create the dating project in Fifty First Dates after Fifty. A native Californian from Los Angeles with a New England education, Carolyn found her true home in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she prepared for dating and life by attending spiritual ceremonies, working in free clinics, leading womens backpacking trips, hiking the local green hills, identifying as a lesbian-feminist in the 1970s and 80s, and earning graduate degrees in womens studies, statistics, and educational research. Fifty First Dates after Fifty is her first book, and excerpts have been published in Persimmon Tree, Outside In Literary & Travel Magazine, and the Human Awareness Institutes Enlighten Journal. An excerpt from her second memoir, about her lesbian-feminist years, has been published in Noyo River Review. Still a feminist, she lives in the Bay Area with her partner, one of her fifty dates. For more information, including dating resources, visit carolynleearnold.com.