We Used to Dance: Loving Judy, My Disabled Twin

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Debbie and Judy are twinsbut Judy was born with cerebral palsy, and Debbie was not. Despite the severity of Judys brain damage, her parents chose to keep her at home with her three siblings, and ultimately Judy lived at home with them well into adulthood. Even after her father died, she continued to stay with her mother, her care augmented by a succession of home attendantsuntil, that is, her doctor told Debbie that Judys care at home was wanting and she would not survive without nursing home care.

In We Used to Dance, Debbie tells of the emotional trauma she experienced when she was forced to place her sistera sister unable to sit, stand, eat regular food, feed herself, use a bathroom, or make her needs and desires known through speech or other meansin a new and strange environment. Following Judys life in her new home as well as her past relationship with Debbie and the rest of their immediate family, this is a raw, personal memoir of love and guiltand, ultimately, acceptance.

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Born in the Bronx, NY, Debbie Morris lived on Long Island (Plainview) for most of her adult life. The youngest (by five minutes) of four children, family has always been important to her. Married for forty-four years and since widowed, she is mother to three wonderful sons and two amazing daughters-in-law, and grandmother to a beautiful granddaughter. Debbie worked in the field of Early Childhood Education, receiving masters degrees from Queens College, Hofstra University, and Bank Street College of Education. Her work included classroom teacher to preschool and kindergarten children and teaching reading to kindergarteners in need of extra support. Now retired, she loves spending time taking walks in nature, solving NY Times crossword puzzles, and practicing piano. Debbie currently resides in Mt. Kisco, New York, with her new partner.