Forty Fathers: Men Talk about Parenting

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When Tessa Lloyd's sons-in-law became fathers, she searched for resources that would help inspire them-especially parenting stories from other fathers. However, that book didn't seem to exist. As a counsellor for children and families, Lloyd understood the ways a father-child relationship can have a lasting effect through the generations. Seeing a need, Lloyd decided to gather these stories herself.

This resulting volume collects the stories and portraits of forty fathers who open up about both their own fathers and their deeply personal parenting experiences. This diverse group includes Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, writer Lawrence Hill, academic Niigaan Sinclair, athlete Trevor Linden, restaurateur Vikram Vij, anthropologist Wade Davis, musician Alan Doyle, artist Robert Bateman and philanthropist Rick Hansen. The contributors reflect on their varied parenting experiences and challenges, including parenting while incarcerated, parenting across cultural barriers, parenting through divorce, parenting while transgender, parenting as a celebrity and parenting with a disability. Many common themes emerge throughout the stories, including the process of overcoming cultural messages that encourage men to be strong, authoritarian and emotionally unavailable.

The stories are extraordinarily candid and vulnerable, as the fathers describe their own failings, regrets and childhood traumas, as well as the humbling process of trying to do better. In one anecdote, Dr. Greg Wells describes the experience of meeting another father walking the empty streets at three a.m. with an infant, and how that moment of shared recognition gave him strength at a difficult time. The stories in this book offer a similar glimpse into the shared experiences and trials of fatherhood, but also offer fascinating reflections on the more universal experiences of finding one's place within a family and striving to be a better person for the sake of others.

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"Forty Fathers is a powerful collection that gives credit to a wide range of fathers, showing how they stepped into their roles." -- Jeremiah Rood * Foreword Reviews *

Author Bio

Tessa Lloydis a counsellor, writer and photographer. She has a BA in child and youth care and a Masters degree in counselling psychology, and has over thirty years experience as a counsellor with children and families. She has four children and six grandchildren and lives with her husband in Victoria, BC. Peter Mansbridgeserved as the former chief correspondent for CBC News for more than twenty years. He has three children and lives with his family in Stratford, Ontario.