Grandfamily Guidebook

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Are you one of nearly 3 million grandparents across North America raising your grandchildren as part of a grandfamily You may have done all this parenting stuff before, but times have changed since you raised your own kids, and you likely never thought youd be raising kids again.

What has led to all these family issues and the growing need for grandparents to step up Now more than ever, substance use and addiction have made many birth parents simply unfit for the job, whether the problem is alcohol, opioids, or other drugs. Family dynamics might also be undermined by parents mental health or medical problems, incarceration, or a simple lack of preparedness for family responsibilities. Whatever the reason for your new role, you must now help your grandchildren adjust to their extended family as part of their everyday life, through the best care you are able to provide. While your new role means that you will likely have to change the way you live, the kinship care you provide your grandchildren might make all the difference in the world.

In The Grandfamily Guidebookwhich leading medical experts have called a must-have resource for grandparents raising grandchildrenauthors Andrew Adesman, MD, and Christine Adamec offer expert medical advice, helpful insights gleaned from other grandparents, and data mined from the 2016 Adesman Grandfamily Studythe broadest and most diverse research study of its kind to date. Youll also find hands-on tips youll be able to reference whenever you need them, including how to cope with difficult birth parents, school issues and social-life challenges, problem behaviors that stem from a difficult past, and your own self-care.

Starting with its foreword by the renowned Dr. William Sears, across this book you will find practical, inspiring help as you navigate the financial impacts, legal considerations, and medical issues that commonly arise when grandparents and grandchildren start becoming a grandfamily.

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Wow, what a needed bookGrowing up cared-for and mentored by grandparents taught me why they deserve to be called grand parentsThe many practical pointers in The Grandfamily Guidebook come together as a toolbox with which new grandparents can tackle lifes many challenging situationsIf kids came with a guidebook, this book would be it. As a pediatrician and grandfather, I am honored to highly recommend this grand resource for grandfamilies. -- William Sears, MD * Author of The Baby Book *
Grandparents who take on parenting will find much-needed encouragementand a wealth of practical information in this clear, authoritative book. It ought to be required reading, both for parenting grandparents and for the professionalspediatricians and family doctors in particularwhose job it is to support them. -- Robert Needlman, MD * Author of Dr. Spock's Baby Basics *
In times when families and generations are blending, we are seeingmore and more grandparents taking on parental roles. TheGrandfamily Guidebook adeptly provides invaluable information and helpful tips to navigate the increasingly common scenario of grandparents raising their childrens children. As a surgeon who treats countless permutations of what composes a family unit, I see that now more so than ever the grandparent assumes a parental role. This book is a must-have guide to better navigate the territory of parenting as grandparents." -- Nina L. Shapiro, MD * Author of Hype, A Doctor's Guide to Medical Myths *
Few of us grow up expecting to be raising toddlers when were on theeve of our own retirement. But for millions of American children, their parents are no longer part of traditional family structure. Is this reliance on grandparents to step in for round two of parenting the new normal For too many families it is. The Grandfamily Guidebookis an indispensable part of modern child rearing and lends a parent/ grandparent a right hand when we all need it the most. -- Nancy Snyderman, MD * Professor of Global Health at Stanford University *
This is the book you need when you become a parent all over againfor your grandchild. While no one plans for this to happen, you need a plan when it does! And while children have not changed in the past thirty years, what we have learned about them has. This is the guide for navigating the challenges and joys of raising your grandchild. -- Ari Brown, MD * Author of Baby 411 *
A practical and sympathetic guide that will truly help grandparents navigate the complex logistics and the profound emotions of caring for their grandchildren, and for themselves, in the families they create together. -- Perri Klass, MD * Professor of Pediatrics, NYU *
The Grandfamily Guidebook is a must-read for grandparents raisingtheir grandchildren, as well as for the providers taking care of the entire family. With easy-to-understand medical, psychological, and legal information and resources, this book provides the essentials for healthy grandfamilies that include healthy children as well as healthy grandparents. Well written and well researched, this book is sure to become a classic must-have on providers as well as grandparents and parents book shelves. -- Robin Miller, MD * Author of Healed: Health and Wellness for the 21st Century *
Dr. Adesmans latest book written in partnership with Christine Adamec, a grandmother parenting her grandson, is an invaluable handbook for grandparents raising their grandchildren. It describes many of the common but often complex and even wrenching challenges grandparents may face, along with practical strategies and information. The book includes real-world cases, along with data from Dr. Adesmans original research, which makes for a very readable, engaging, and valuable book. It is an important new resource for all grandfamilies. -- Carol Cohen Weitzman, MD * Professor of Pediatrics, Yale University *
The Grandfamily Guidebook is one of the best resources available for grandparents raising grandkids. It masterfully interweaves suggestions for financial, academic and other types of help with workable options for solving other everyday issues. The numerous quotes from grandparents ,who share openly their messy, heart-wrenching personal stories and lessons learned are touching and insightful. Easy to read and totally relevant." -- Joan Callander Dingle * Author of Raising Children of Drug Users and Alcoholics *
Grandfamilies are usually formed at a time of crisis. Over the pastdecade, several million grandparents have taken on the parentingrole for one or more of their grandchildren. Once the initial shockhas subsided, The Grandfamily Guidebook can support grandparentsas they cope with, adjust to, and thrive in their new role. In plainlanguage, Adesman and Adamec describe ways of identifying anddealing with grandparents feelings and ways of managing the middlegeneration of birth parents. They use meaningful vignettes toillustrate how to understand childrens reactions and emotionalneeds, how to effectively guide and encourage children at home andin school, and how to set reasonable limits on their behaviors. This very practical and readable guide offers up-to-date psychological,medical, and even a little legal advice and resources. It is positive inits approach and provides both understanding and encouragement to grandparents raising grandchildren. -- Pamela High, MD * Professor of Pediatrics at Brown University *
Recognizing the large numbers of grandparents now raising grandchildren,Dr. Adesman and his colleague provide vast amounts of helpful advice, from the initial phases of taking on the parenting role through interacting with birth parents, managing illness and behavior, and interacting with schools. Much helpful advice relates to talking with children in ways that recognize their developmental abilities. And it provides good guidance on connecting with various public programs that can help support grandparents in their expanded roles. The Grandfamily Guidebook will be indispensable to the many grandparents entering this new phase in their lives. -- James Perrin * Professor of Pediatrics, Harvard University *
The Grandfamily Guidebook is the perfect roadmap for grandparents navigating the journey of caring for their grandchildren! No matter what your circumstances, if you find yourself among these growing non-traditional families, Dr. Adesman and Christine Adamec lead the way from current child-rearing and safety practices important for all caregivers to financial and legal considerations unique to grandparents. -- Jennier Shu, MD * Co-author of Heading Home with Your Newborn *
The Grandfamily Guidebook is an excellent resource for navigatingthe challenges of raising grandchildren when your childrentheir parentscant or arent adequately caring for them. More and more families are facing this painful situation because of our national epidemic of opioid addiction. The authors share their expertise and insights gained from interviews with many grandparents whove stepped up in a crisis. They offer detailed practical advice for handling distressing decisions and conflicts that commonly arise. And they address, with considerable empathy, the roller coaster of emotionsstress, worry, resentment, joythat come with finding yourself called to parent again. The authors offer not only emotional support but specific scripts to guide grandparents in difficult interactions. -- Harold Koplewicz, MD * Author of It's Nobody's Fault *
The Grandfamily Guidebook is a timely and comprehensive resourcethat addresses the complexities of reality for this growing community of families, in an easy-to-read, thoughtful manner. -- Elaine Schulte, MD * Professor of Pediatrics at Albert Einstein College of Medicine *
Dr. Adesman and Ms. Adamec provide excellent, clear, and practicalguidance that will be useful to grandparents facing the challenging child behaviors, difficult discussions, and complicated legal, financial, and life decisions that accompany becoming a parent again. -- Nathan Blum, MD * Professor of Pediatrics at University of Pennsylvania *
Many of the elderly patients I care for experience the joys and heartaches of raising grandfamilies. This book is good medicine for all of thema guide, a balm, and an inspiration. Like a close friend, it is both positive andreal. -- Sharon A. Levine, MD * Professor of Medicine at Boston University *
The challenges of parenting a grandchild can be daunting: economic,social, emotional, legal, and behavioral. Based on their pioneering research and practical experience, the authors of The GrandfamilyGuidebook offer grandparents valuable information to overcome each of these hurdles. With this expert help and support at their fingertips, grandparents will realize they are no longer alone. -- Irene S. Levine, MD * Professor of Psychiatry at NYU Langone School of Medicine *
The Grandfamily Guidebook offers comprehensive, tangible, useful informationabout topics as varied as parenting strategies, school and education, finances, legal rights, and moreall in a practical and easy-to-read format. Of special interest are the many sample conversations that offer grandparents words to use with children, teachers, birthfamily, and others as they navigate the unexpected but often joyful journey through parenting at older ages. This book is a mustread for all who find themselves raising grandchildren in the golden years. -- Susan Caughman * Co-Author of You Can Adopt: An Adoptive Families Guide *
The authors do an exceptional job acclimating grandfamilies to their new normal. This guidebook covers a myriad of aspects impacting the lives of grandfamiliesfrom medical, psychological, and social issues, as well as how to cope with them. Because this guidebook is all encompassing of the lives of grandfamilies, it covers issues that can occur inside and outside of the home; focusing on shifting family dynamics, legal and financial resources, schooling, etc. I highly recommend this guidebook to grandparents who are just starting their grandfamily or to those who have been raising their grandchildren for years. A helpful guide, and a must-read. -- Bob Blancato * National Coordinator of Elder Justice Coalition *
I feel like I just read a whole set of encyclopedias about grandparentsraising grandchildren, condensed into one book. I asked myself when I was done, What did they miss and I couldnt think of a single thing. This book is cover-to-cover valuable straightforward information that is easy to read. Sixteen years into my journey as a grandparent raising her grandchildren and I still learned new things that will be helpful to me as I take on a second, younger grandchild. I so appreciate the effort and knowledge that created this book. Ill be reading it a second time, and I am sure I will be referring to it again and again over the years. -- DeeDee Sinatra * Founder of United Grandfamilies Worldwide Facebook Group *
Relatives stepping up to care for family is not new, but the numbersand the seriousness of the issues seem to have accelerated. TheGrandfamily Guidebook is a nice blend of stories from real families Together with information and resources to help caregivers on their journey. -- Sharon Howell Olson * Been Raising Grands for Over 20 Years *
Thank you so much for the guidebook. Im sure I will refer back toit for many years to come. It covered the major impacts raising our grandchildren have. I have previously researched a lot of information on this so it is nice to have it all in one place. Most helpful to me was how to respond to questions by my grands or strangers. -- Cynthia Hallinger * Grandparent Raising Grandchildren in Virginia *
I have found this book to be very informative for whomever finds themselves walking this path. The stories I can relate to in ways the typical parent cannot. This journey we chose is not for the lighthearted, because of some of the choices we have to make along the way. I highly recommend this book for anyone thinking about walking this path and those walking it already. Have fun making memories and passing your knowledge to the future generation. -- B. Stacconi * Grandparent Raising Grandchildren *

Author Bio

Dr. Andrew Adesman is a nationally recognized pediatrician with expertise in the areas of parenting and child development. He is a professor of pediatrics at the Donald and Barbara Zucker School of Medicine at Hofstra/Northwell. He also serves as chief of the Division of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics at the Steven & Alexandra Cohen Childrens Medical Center of New York. The author of the trusted book Baby Facts, in 2016 Adesman completed the largest nationwide study of grandparents serving as parents.

Christine Adamec is a self-help, health, and wellness writer who has coauthored more than 40 books, including When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart;The A-Z of Phobias, Fears, and Anxieties; and Fibromyalgia for Dummies. She and her husband are now raising a grandchild.

This is the second book from coauthors Adesman and Adamec; they previously worked together on Parenting Your Adopted Child.