Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen's Wellness and Academic Journey in Today's Competitive World

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There's no use sugar-coating it: teens today are stressed out, sleep-deprived, over-committed, and sometimes depressed or even suicidal, and one of the biggest stressors for teens and their parents is the college admissions process. If some parents are willing to falsify standardized test answers, bribe coaches, and make fake donations to charities just to help their kids get into college, then our generation of parents has gotten way off track. It can be hard for parents to practice what they know is right when everyone around them seems to be frantically tutoring, managing, and helicoptering. While well-intentioned, many parents dont know how best to support their children during this sensitive and stressful time.The Parent Compass provides guidance on how to appropriately parent during the college admissions process and what parents roles should be in supporting their teens mental health as they navigate high school, college applications, and all the pressures that come along with that busy time of life. Packed withpractical advice, useful suggestions, and real case studies drawn from the authors' combined experience of over 25 years of guiding parents and students through this stressful phase, this book is a toolbox and treasure trove of ideas and answers.

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"An earnest and instructive guide...Parents of teens will appreciate the authors well-reasoned and practical approach."
Publishers Weekly

Launching into the teen years without this book in your hands is like taking to the sea in a boat with no rudder.
Kelly Corrigan,New York Timesbestselling author ofTell Me More

"A reasonable, actionable bible for parents of teens, this book will give grit, guidance, and guideposts for raising kids who still speak to you during their high school years."
Zibby Owens, creator and host of theaward-winning podcastMoms Don't Have Time to Read Books

"This book provides sound advice for parents trying to help navigate their teen's journey through life."
Midwest Book Review

"At a time when parents are bombarded with so much contradictory advice about their children's education that it's a wonder they can even breathe (let alone think),The Parent Compassoffers counsel that is wise, calm, comprehensive, and most important of all, well-informed. These are experts you can trust."
William Deresiewicz,New York Timesbestselling author ofExcellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful Life

My new parenting bible!
Deirdre Fitzpatrick, morning news anchor at KCRA TV/NBC 3 Sacramento, Host of the Dying to Ask Podcast

"Great for parents or anyone interested in empowering young people. As a co-author of the bookUnacceptable,I saw the end result of the cutthroat college admissions process and just how off track people could get. This is the book that could help many parents from going down that road to begin with. Curtis and Muchnick couldn't be better guides; they deliver smart and helpful advice with a huge dose of empathy. They speak as experts who have been in the trenches, and as parents, and they deliver lots of great anecdotes that make this a very relatable book. It is never preachy or dryit's like sitting down with your wisest friend, one who wants the best for you and your kid."
Jennifer Levitz, co-author ofUnacceptable: Privilege, Deceit, and the Making of the College Admissions Scandal

This really is a remarkable book. It strikes a balance between being an involved parent and being a helicopter parent, between a clear-on-the-sidelines parent and everything in the trenches; it saves the day.
Brian Rogers, faculty, Webb Schools, and author ofThe Whole of the Moon

"At a time when our love for our children is being contorted into actions we may no longer recognize as parents, this book offers a compassionate but firm users manual for how to navigate some of the most treacherous years of a young persons life. Parenting is the most difficult role in society today, bar none: the sense of scarcity and abundance of fear have turned us upside down in many ways. The Parent Compass is the guide that will help us to stop snatching defeat from the jaws of victory and bring us back to principles. And when the principles are clear, the decisions are easy.
Than Healy, head of school, Menlo School

Superbly researched with anecdotes that bring parent etiquetteto lifea phrase that I just love! Fair warning, expect to have your hand metaphorically 'slapped' now and again, as it is a necessary part of learning how to best support our teens. Fortunately, this is done in kindness with the insights of how to do better for the overall well-being of your teenager. Follow their advice and you will have a healthy teenager; better yet, ten years from now, you'll have a healthy and contributing young adult.
Dr. Mike Riera, author of Staying Connected to Your Teenager and head of school, Brentwood School

The Parent Compasshelps parents resist the urge to hover and micromanage, and guides them to reflect deeply on their actions and make important changes to support their teens long-term well-being and success.
Dr. Denise Pope, senior lecturer, Stanford University and co-founder, Challenge Success

This book offers a refreshing look at current foibles of all involved in the educational process and provides common sense suggestions for better parenting.
Linda Winrow, high school teacher and educator for nearly 50 years

This is a very timely and important book . . . for parents . . . [and] the landscape is ever changing. The Parent Compass provides great advice and guidance from experts of all types.
Michael Dennin, professor of physics and astronomy and Vice Provost for Teaching and Learning, UCIrvine

"Its hard enough for todays teens to feel constant pressure from the outside world to knock it out of the park further than everyone else around them, but when parents overstep boundaries by writing their kids papers, speaking for them, and micromanaging their lives into the ground, thats crossing a line.The Parent Compassis a truly necessary resource that helps keep parents in check when the urge strikes to helicopter and bulldoze and interfere in the parts of our teenage kids lives that should be up tothemto manage."
LisaSugarman, nationally syndicated columnist, radio show host, speaker, and author ofHow To Raise Perfectly Imperfect KidsAnd Be OK with It

"Parenting teenagers is hard work, plain and simple. In an era where common sense seems to have disappeared and our parental anxieties rule the day,The Parent Compassis just what families need to help guide them through the forest of adolescence.The Parent Compassis an excellent tool to reassure parents to trust their instincts and ignore the drop-off line gossip and cocktail party hysteria. The advice it provides will allow all of us to more thoughtfully and lovingly parent our children while still preparing them to be healthy adults who can make it in the world."
Chris Mazzola, head of school, The Branson School

"Finallya book that calls out what we know to be true about how overly involved parents can negatively impact a child's development, while offering simple ways to implement practical advice on how to help our children thrive during their teenage years. A must read for any parent who wants an emotionally healthy, confident, independent child!"
Jill Quigley, principal, middle upper schools, TVT Community Day School

Author Bio

Cynthia Clumeck Muchnick, MA, is a graduate of Stanford University and has been working in education for the past 25+ years as a former Assistant Director of College Admissions, high school teacher, test prep tutor, private college counselor, and author of five other education-related titles. She primarily speaks around the country to parent, student, teacher, and administration groups on topics such as study skills, the middle and high school journey, the college application process, and now of course, parentiquette."

Jenn Curtis, MSW, earned her BA from UCLA and MSW from USC, and has been an educational consultant and speaker for the past 11 years. She has worked with hundreds of students on every aspect of the college admissions process from course planning, goal setting, activities selection, essay writing, and interview skills to understanding how to select the right fit schools, and she is particularly passionate about empowering students and educating parents around all things "parentiquette.