Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience

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Create a secure emotional bond with your children-for a close, fulfilling parent-child relationship that lasts a lifetime. Therapist and wildly popular attachment research expert Eli Harwood (@attachmentnerd) illuminates attachment theory as foundational to the only parenting approach proven to have a lasting impact. Create a lifetime of connection with your children. Therapist and wildly popular attachment research expert Eli Harwood (a.k.a. Attachment Nerd) illuminates attachment theory as foundational to the only parenting approach proven to have a lasting impact. How do you raise kids who are confident, capable, and caring The first ingredient is a secure and close relationship-key to helping them self-regulate and thrive later in life. When children feel seen, heard, and supported, all other parenting tips and tricks start to work. Groundbreaking author Eli Harwood makes attachment theory (the science that explores the innate human need to bond with other humans) accessible and actionable in how it can help our children learn and grow into compassionate, warm adults. For anyone looking to build a better life for their kids, no matter what you went through growing up yourself, these simple, real-life strategies will help you- Help you create a secure attachment relationship with your kids by choosing connection over control Prompt reflection on attachment patterns you developed in childhood and why you respond in certain ways during emotional moments with your children Help you resolve past attachment traumas so you can gain effective skills to offer calm, connected, and secure base Provide scripts and practical tools to build and reinforce a strong foundation of trust Encourage you to release the reins of influence as their independence grows Hopeful and inspiring, this essential evidence-based guide will show parents across different ages and stages everywhere that they are not alone in the questions and concerns they may have about their children's development. Though there have been countless studies on how attachment styles affect our romantic relationships, Raising Securely Attached Kids reframes the subject for cultivating a strong relationship between parent and child to bring transformative change to your relationships of all stripes.

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Eli Harwood brings infectious-fun energy, vulnerability, and fresh perspectives without shaming or blaming. Not only is Raising Securely Attached Kids a practical and actionable guide, its grounded in science and entertaining to read. There is truly nothing that matters more to me in my life than building secure relationships with my children and loved ones.
Hilary Swank, actress, storyteller, mom of twins

Raising Securely Attached Kids provides a compelling invitation to every parent. . . . Eli Harwood weaves her personal and professional experiences in teaching the essentials of attachment which can help us as parents all 'show up' in ways that enable our children to become securely attached to us. This security then enables our kids to develop resilience and the capacity to connect with others in deeply rewarding ways.
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., New York Times bestselling co-author of The Whole-Brain Child

Raising Securely Attached Kids is a comprehensive roadmap for parents whowant to raise securely attached, emotionally healthy children. Eli Harwood breaks down the science of attachment to offer practical insights for cultivating parent-child relationships based on safety, connection, and collaboration. A parenting must-read.
Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions

Eli uses her charm, humor, and compelling storytelling ability to weave together a narrative that will guide parents toward a deep and transformative relationship with their children.Eli has a special gift to take complex research and psychological concepts and make them accessible to her audience, and that is woven through each page of this book.
Tammy Schamuhn, author of The Parenting Handbook

Insightful, profound, poignant. Raising Securely Attached Kids is a must-read for parents committed to building a secure foundation that lasts a lifetime. This book seamlessly translates cutting-edge research into practical wisdom. Eli Harwood brings an outstanding fusion of knowledge and heart to the world of parenting.
Dr. Galit Atlas, author of Emotional Inheritance

If theres one thing a divorcing parent wishes for as their marital status changes, its a continued healthy attachment with their children. Harwoods work is a gift to those of us working hard to give our children a childhood they can be proud of one day.
Michelle Dempsey-Multack, founder of Moms Moving On

You cant put a roof on a house without first laying a sturdy foundation and building a frame. There are many parenting advisors offering quick tips, but much of this advice falls short and leads to parenting feeling like a game of whack-a-mole, with one challenge replacing another. Raising Securely Attached Kids will guide you in creating the foundation upon which healthy families can be built. This book is the parenting guide we all need.
Rachel Samson, clinical psychologist and @AustralianPsychologist

Author Bio

ELI HARWOOD is a licensed therapist who lives in Colorado with her husband,Trevor, and their three children. Eli has been nerding out on attachment research for the past two decades and is on a mission to help make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. She continues this mission in her clinical work, her writing, and running her mouth about attachment on social media. When she isn't working to make the world a more secure place, she is playing dress-up with her kids, obsessing about her sourdough starter, and reminiscing about that one time she won a set of globes as a Price is Right contestant. Visit her at AttachmentNerd.com.