The Cost of Fear: Why Most Safety Advice Is Sexist and How We Can Stop Gender Based Violence
By (Author) Meg Stone
Beacon Press
Beacon Press
25th March 2025
United States
Hardback
224
Width 152mm, Height 229mm
A self-defense expert helps women and other targets of gender-based violence discern fact from fiction, improve their personal safety, and support social change Personal safety shouldn't mean avoiding danger or living in fear A self-defense expert helps women and other targets of gender-based violence discern fact from fiction, improve their personal safety, and support social change Personal safety shouldn't mean avoiding danger or living in fear There are two kinds of safety choices- those that disrupt power structures and those that leave them unquestioned. Gender-based violence is a social and political problem, but it's often enacted in the most intimate spheres of our lives. In this book, nationally recognized leader in abuse prevention Meg Stone debunks baseless advice we get about personal safety. Tips like "don't go shopping alone" and "don't wear a ponytail" are not based on any evidence, but that doesn't stop police officers and other men in authority from telling women to restrict our lives. Sharing stories from a Black transgender woman building a grassroots group to defend her community, to a would-be Taekwondo Olympian fighting back in the courts, to a pharmaceutical scientist fighting back in the lab, Stone argues there are two opposing philosophies of how to make people safer, one of which exacerbates victim-blame (safety through compliance) and the other challenges it (safety through resistance). Stone gives readers practical strategies for keeping themselves and their loved ones safer in ways that that affirm their right to be full participants in social, political and professional life.
Meg Stone is a nationally recognized leader in the field of abuse prevention. She is the Executive Director of IMPACT Boston, an abuse prevention and empowerment self-defense organization. She has received numerous awards in recognition of her work over the past 30 years of her career supporting sexual-abuse survivors. She is based in Cambridge, MA.