How to Be a Husband

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SUNDAY TIMES HUMOUR BOOK OF THE YEAR

Believe me, not a day goes by without me stopping to ask myself, How the hell did I end up here
Twenty years ago my wife and I embarked on a project so foolhardy, the prospect of which seemed to both of us so weary, stale and flat that even thinking about it made us shudder. Neither of us could propose to the other, because neither of us could possibly make a case for the idea. We simply agreed well get married with the resigned determination of two people plotting to bury a body in the woods.

Two decades on we are still together, still married and still, well, I hesitate to say happy, if only because its one of those absolute terms, like nit-free, that life has taught me to deploy with caution. And really, I can only speak for myself in this matter. But yes: I am, at the time of writing, 100 per cent nit-free.

This is the story of how I ended up here, and along with it an examination of what it means to be a husband in the 21st century, and what is and isnt required to hold that office. I cant pretend to offer much in the way of solid advice on how to be a man I tried to become a man, and in the end I just got old. But Husband its one of the main things on my CV, right below BA, English and just above Once got into a shark cage for money. Husband is the thing I do that makes everything else I do seem like a hobby.

But, I hear you ask, are you a good husband Perhaps that is for my wife to judge, but I think I know what she would say: no. Still, I cant help feeling theres a longer answer, a more considered, qualified way of saying no. Im not an expert on being a husband, but what kind of husband would an expert make If nothing else, I can look back and point out ways round some of the pitfalls I was fortunate enough to overstep, and relate a few cautionary tales about the ones I fell headlong into.

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You'll whoosh through this book with cheery hoots of laughter Dowling's a very fresh and smart writer There's a proper laugh every couple of pages But as well as being funny, which he has to be, Dowling is sometimes plangent and he is more often than not wise there's pleasure and treasure here Sam Leith, Guardian

There's no denying [HOW TO BE A HUSBANDss] enormous readability Dowling's frequently hilarious Bildungsroman, detailing his evolution from feckless layabout to equally feckless husband and father, offers wisdom, insight and laugh-out-loud one-liners in equal measure Gloriously entertaining Alexander Larman, Observer

This isnt a self-help book What [Dowling] has done, effectively, is invent an entirely new genre in literature: that of the self-hinder book A rare delight. Spectator

Less a self-help than a self-hinder book, the Guardian columnists account of how he has coped with the challenges of matrimony (answer: badly) should really be called How Not To Be a Husband. Thomas Hodgkinson, Spectator, Books of the Year

A charming book that claims erroneously, not to be a self-help guide. Ive read it. My wife has read it. Divorce has been postponed, at least to Boxing Day. Sunday Times, Books of the Year

A charming book Sunday Times

Author Bio

Journalist Tim Dowling was born in Connecticut and moved to the UK at the age of 29. He is the author of 4 books (so far) including a novel, The Giles Wareing Haters' Club. For the last five and a half years his popular weekly Guardian column has charted the ups and downs of family life, and his largely unsuccessful attempts to be recognised as a competent father and husband, combining self-deprecating humour with a perverse optimism.