Ask Me How It Works: Love in an Open Marriage

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A beautiful, vibrant and surprising memoir about love, desire and marriage . . . one question at a time. In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam, Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend's bed. She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home, where she is welcomed into the arms of her husband, whose contentment is mellow alongside her own. There isn't a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible - even if it wasn't always this easy. You might have questions. Whose idea was it What are the rules Are you ever jealous In this memoir, Deepa offers her answers openly and tenderly, as she explores the truth to questions of her own. Can I ask for what I want, and still honor the life I have chosen Do I deserve it Is it worth it Unexpectedly relatable, at times raw and vulnerable, and joyfully vibrant, this is one woman's story of discovering her own desires and how to liberate them, of shifting identities from mother to lover and back again, and of finding the courage to ask for the marriage she wanted, beyond the marriage she had. One question at a time.

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A wonderfully honest and liberating memoir -- Julia Samuel
A generous-spirited, imaginative exploration of how to live life differently -- Rebecca Wait
A fascinating and big hearted portrait of sex, intimacy and polyamory. She brings an artists sensibility to her writing, but with a psychologists eye for what is really going on in that complex place: the inside of a marriage. -- Clover Stroud
A spectacular memoir written with verve and style, connecting our sexual freedom in the here and now to rich multi faceted ancestry, painting vivid hopes of expansive futures where we may all create the unique families that hold us in an abundance of love -- Nana Darkoa
A rare and wonderful thing. I feel changed and inspired by this book -- Lucy-Ann Holmes

Author Bio

Deepa Paul is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam. Her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventurer, and herself - all at the same time.