Should I Stay or Should I Go: A Guide to Sorting out Whether Your Relationship Can-and Should-be Saved

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From the bestselling author of Why Does He Do That comes a relationship book that will help you make the decision of whether or not your troubled relationship is worth saving. Every relationship has problems, but you can't figure out if yours is beyond hope. How bad is too bad-and can your partner really change Now, in this warm, supportive, and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft and women's advocate JAC Patrissi offer a way for you to practically and realistically take stock of your relationship and move forward. If you're involved in a chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationship, the advice and exercises in this book will help you learn to- . Tell the difference between a healthy-yet difficult-relationship and one that is really not working .Recognize the signs that your partner has serious problems .Stop waiting to see what will happen-and make your own growth the top priority .Design a clear plan of action for you and your partner .Navigate the waters of a relationship that's improving .Prepare for life without your partner, even as you keep trying to make life work with them

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Praise forWhy Does He Do That

Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships.Gavin de Becker,New York Timesbestselling author ofThe Gift of FearandFear Less

This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men.Jay G. Silverman, PhD, director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancrofts book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families.Publishers Weekly

Bancroft boldly asksand brilliantly answersthe most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women What can be done about it This book is desperately needed and long overdue.Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning videoTough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity

This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended.Library Journal

At lastthe straight scoop on men who abuse women. This is a book not just for abused women and domestic violence professionals, but for everyone who wonders why theres so much violence in America. Read it.Ann Jones, author ofWhen Love Goes WrongandNext Time, Shell Be Dead

Bancroft helps women who feel trapped in unhealthy relationships make sense out of what is happening.Sarah Buel, JD, codirector, Domestic Violence Clinic, and lecturer, University of Texas Law School

A compelling read about a tough topic. What you read here will come back to you long after you put the book down.Angela Browne, author ofWhen Battered Women Kill

An informative and necessary read.Susan Weitzman, PhD, author ofNot to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages

Author Bio

Lundy Bancroft has over twenty-five years of experience in the fields of abuse, trauma, and recovery. He has published five books, including the bestsellerWhy Does He Do That, Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That, When Dad Hurts Mom, The Batterer as Parent, and Should I Stay of Should I Go.Lundy has worked with over 1000 abusive men in his counseling groups. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness, and has presented to 350 audiences across the U.S. and abroad. JAC Patrissi is the founder and former director of the Vermont Victim Assistance Academy. She facilitates the Growing a New Heart Retreat series for women healing from destructive relationships.