Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love: Relationship Repair in a Flash

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TALK TO ME LIKE I'M SOMEONE YOU LOVE is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing. Couples therapist, Nancy Dreyfus, hit upon this revolutionary practice during a particularly angry couples-therapy session in which a wife's unrelenting criticism of her husband was making him more and more emotionally withdrawn. Suddenly, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, "Talk to me like I'm someone you love," and gesturing to the husband that he should hold it up. He did and within seconds, the familiar power differential between the two shifted and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged. This revised edition features two new sections - one on making love and another on deepening trust - containing over 25 new "flash cards for real life" - written statements that hold the power to express what we wish we could say to the person we love, but for which we can't find either the right words or the right tone in which to say them. Each of the statements in this book is accompanied by "field notes" from the author that explain when, why and how to use the statement, as well as actual stories from the author's practice.

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"Just about any couple using this material could humanize their relationship."
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want

"Nancy Dreyfus and her flash cards were an inspiration behind our research into the important process of attempting to change the affect during marital-conflict resolution."
John Gottman, Ph.D., author of The Relationship Cure

"The most crucial relationship advice book since Men Are from Mars."
Erin Meanley, Glamour.com

"Veteran psychotherapist NancyDreyfus has written an insightful guide that highlights the power of written messages to diffuse tension and put an end to conflict"
TucsonCitizen

Author Bio

Nancy Dreyfus is a seasoned psychotherapist and couples therapist. She holds a doctorate degree from Hahnemann University Medical School. She lives in the Philadelphia area.