It's On Me: Embrace Hard Truths, Discover Your Self and Change Your Life

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From the existential psychotherapist, USA Today columnist, and creator of the popular Instagram account @millennial.therapist comes a guide to identifying self-loss-one of our greatest unspoken human sufferings: that feeling of being estranged or disconnected from your true Self-so we can answer the most essential question: "Who am I"

So many of us feel lonely, unfulfilled, or trapped-in our roles and relationships, in cycles of self-sabotage and wrong decisions, by our toxic patterns and misguided attempts to feel happy-or to feel something. Many of us struggle to like the person we see in the mirror. According to Sara Kuburic, it doesn't have to be so difficult. Really.

Instead of pushing harder or running faster, the secret lies in taking full responsibility for the choices and actions that create our reality. It's about slowing down, cutting through the clutter of demands and expectation, and finally taking ownership of this person we call our "Self."

In It's On Me, Kuburic unpacks "self-loss," giving us new vocabulary to understand our unarticulated experience, and offers tools she's used for years to help her clients recover. Self-loss becomes apparent when we feel the pain and emptiness from performing or observing life, rather than living it. Guiding us through the process of self-reflection, acceptance, and discovery, Kuburic proves that we can:

experience but not feel overpowered by our emotions

establish a healthy connection to our bodies

set loving boundaries to define ourselves and heal our relationships

declutter our physical and mental environments to create space for our true selves to thrive

find meaning and purpose in a seemingly meaningless world

Eye-opening and inspiring, It's On Me shows how we can stop sleepwalking our way through the lives we don't want and step into our most vibrant, authentic, and meaningful Self.

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A masterful guide to help all those who are building self-awareness, It's On Me eloquently and brilliantly reconnects us with a life of meaning and empowerment by helping us understand the concept of self-loss. . . . Relatable and necessary * Yung Pueblo, No.1 New York Times bestselling author *
As the expectations of work, home, social media, parenthood, partnerships, etc., pile on, Sara Kuburic touches on something many people feel in their bones: lost. In It's On Me, she gently yet firmly guides readers through our self-investigation so that we may take full responsibility and ultimately create a more aligned, authentic, and vibrant life * Nedra Glover Tawwab, New York Times bestelling author *
If human beings came with a manual, It's On Me would be it! Though we are all subject to the ups and downs of the world around us, we have more control over how we respond to that world than we realize, and Sara Kuburic shows us how * Simon Sinek, New York Times bestelling author *
It's hard to know exactly how to return to yourself, especially if you didn't realize how far you had drifted. It's On Me invites you to do what is otherwise deeply challenging and often elusive work in a tangible, supported, and com- passionate way. It lights a path that will lead you back to you * Melissa Urban, New York Times bestselling author *
Masterful and provoking . . . Kuburic has outdone herself with her brilliant guide, It's On Me, as she challenges the reader to step toward a path of self-inquiry and discovery. If your goal is to live an authentic life- one of freedom-then this a must read. In a world where skirting responsibility is often the norm, Kuburic argues that finding responsibility becomes the gateway to meaning, which will ultimately lead you to the Self-the most profound form of existence * Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, author of The Origins of You *

Author Bio

Sara Kuburic, PhD, is an existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and columnist for USA Today. She was born in Yugoslavia and raised in Canada. She is passionate about helping people seeking change and live authentic, free, and meaningful lives. Her interest in psychology stems from her personal experience living through wars, navigating complex relationships, and continually learning what it means to be human.