Disarming the Narcissist, Third Edition: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

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The go-to guide for dealing with the narcissist in your life-now fully revised and updated based on reader
feedback!

Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement Do they exploit others, or engage in deluded thinking These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So, how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so ignoring them isn't really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.

Now a self-help classic, Disarming the Narcissist is a practical, step-by-step communication guide to help you cope with and confront the narcissist in your life. Based on reader feedback, this fully revised and updated third edition features new information on shame, hypersexuality, and infidelity in narcissism; legal information to help you if you are divorcing a narcissist; and the impact of narcissism on children.

With this how-to guide, you'll learn how to separate yourself from a narcissist's traps, and gain the respect and validation you deserve-while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the centre of his or her own universe. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

Reviews

"Disarming the Narcissist in its new edition continues to be a useful guide for anyone doing therapy with a narcissist, or even for those in a relationship with such a person. In this valuable book, we learn to understand the mental schema of a narcissist, and the appropriate interpersonal neurobiology that makes it possible to have hope that we can both understand and survive these very difficult relationships. The book is an essential guide for this widespread problem."
--John M. Gottman, PhD, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work--John M. Gottman, PhD
"Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary provides a courageous challenge of taking on the narcissist. Using the approach of understanding the psychological makeup of the disorder, Behary accomplishes what seems like an impossible task. Strategies to help the reader understand and communicate better with a narcissist are here! I'm honored to recommend this must-read book."
--Karyl McBride, PhD, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough, Healing theDaughters of Narcissistic Mothers, and Will I Ever Be Free of You--Karyl McBride, PhD
"If there is a narcissist in your life, I highly recommend this book! How narcissists behave always makes sense once you understand their thinking. The way you habitually respond to narcissists always makes sense once you understand your own thinking. This valuable book offers great insight and concrete suggestions for changing your thinking and responses so you can interact with narcissists more effectively, whether you're a family member, intimate, friend, coworker, or therapist."
--Judith Beck, PhD, president of the nonprofit Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and author of Cognitive Behavior Therapy--Judith Beck, PhD
"In Disarming the Narcissist, Wendy Behary delivers clear and thoughtful navigational tools for dealing with a narcissistic person based on her years of working with individuals with this challenging personality disorder. In this third edition, Wendy also addresses the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist. She beautifully illustrates the power of empathic confrontation--a tool for enhancing a sturdy core self, and cultivating a reliable and effective advocate for our children amid the inevitable power struggles."
--Susan Stiffelman, author of Parenting Without Power Struggles, and cohost--with Wendy Behary--of the Co-Parenting with a Narcissist online community--Susan Stiffelman
"In its third edition, the deeply insightful Disarming the Narcissist is a classic with good reason: it offers survivors of narcissism helpful guidance and protection while never dehumanizing anyone. In that way, it continues to stand out in the now-crowded field of books addressing narcissism."
--Craig Malkin, PhD, lecturer at Harvard Medical School, and author of Rethinking Narcissism--Craig Malkin, PhD
"The latest edition of Disarming the Narcissist provides up-to-date and practical guidance for not only understanding the problem of narcissism, but also a discerning road map for navigating the solution. This book will be a stabilizing and highly recommended resource for anyone who has ever stood in the confusing wake a narcissist leaves."
--Jill Manning, PhD, licensed marriage and family therapist, researcher, and author of What's the Big Deal about Pornography--Jill Manning, PhD
"Wendy Behary has dedicated decades to understanding narcissism, both as a clinician and a scholar. In Disarming the Narcissist, she distills these hard-won insights into a very readable form. This book is a terrific resource for those looking to better understand narcissism."
--W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor in the department of psychology at the University of Georgia, and coauthor of The Narcissism Epidemic--W. Keith Campbell, PhD
"Wendy Behary is my go-to therapist when I need information about people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or how they interact with family members. In this new edition, Wendy shows you why you feel so lonely and misunderstood in these relationships, and why you keep your own needs tucked away. Whether you decide to stay in this relationship or leave, the insights Wendy Behary provides make this an essential book for anyone in a relationship with a narcissist."
--Randi Kreger, coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells, and author of Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents--Randi Kreger

Author Bio

Wendy T. Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and a faculty member at the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York. She is also a distinguished founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissism and high-conflict couples therapy.

Foreword writer Jeffrey Young, PhD, is the author of Schema Therapy: a Practitioner's Guide and founder/director of the Schema Therapy Institute Schema Therapy Institute of New York.

Preface writer Daniel J. Siegel, MD, is the author of The Mindful Brain and an associate clinical professor at the UCLA School of Medicine Center for Human Development.