The Perfectionist's Dilemma: Learn the Art of Self-Compassion and Become a Happy Achiever

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Break free of toxic perfectionism by cultivating emotional courage and self-compassion to face life's challenges with a 6-step program. Break free of toxic perfectionism by cultivating emotional courage and self-compassion to face life's challenges with a 6-step program. In today's high-pressure society, we are constantly fed a fable of individualism, exceptionalism, determination, and ingenuity and taught a mythology of grin and bear it; no pain, no gain; and hard work pays off, despite the fact that the conditions for success are unpredictable and ever changing. Psychologist Tara Cousineau claims that perfectionism is a paradox- it is the tension created by the need for belonging, a desire for excellence, and a quest for a meaningful and productive life. But perfectionism can be transformed by learning to connect both head and heart, replacing inner algorithms of comparison and criticism with self-acceptance and self-compassion. In The Perfectionist's Dilemma, Cousineau introduces an innovative six-step solution based on the acronym EVOLVE- Embody the present moment. Validate your experience. Open your heart. Love your inner critic. Make a Vow. Spark the Energy of excellence. EVOLVE helps readers overcome perfectionism and cultivate three essential resources-inner worth, inner humanity, and inner leadership. Through storytelling and anecdotes from recovering perfectionists who have participated in Cousineau's workshops, readers can learn to align mind, body, heart, and spirit-to become happy achievers.

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Praise for The Perfectionist's Dilemma:

A transformative guide on overcoming perfectionism. By weaving self-compassion, self-acceptance, and resilience, Cousineau provides a practical guide to embracing imperfection and finding true fulfillment. A must-read for anyone seeking balance in a perfection-driven world.
James R. Doty, M.D., founder & director of the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education and New York Times bestselling author of Into the Magic Shop and Mind Magic

In this comprehensive but practical guide, Dr Tara Cousineau explores the roots of perfectionism and its often-hidden toll on your well-being.Whether you are looking for personal change or inspiration for those in your care, The Perfectionist's Dilemma is the guide you must read.
Professor Peta Stapleton,Clinical Psychologist,Bond University, Australia, and author of The Science Behind Tapping

A phenomenal, must-read book for any of us who struggle with perfectionism. Brilliantly integrating psychology, neuroscience, energy psychology, mindfulness, self-compassion research, and more, this book offers a unique framework for understanding the roots of perfectionism and how to work with it. Skillfully and with clear guidance, wisdom, compelling stories and a multitude of enriching mind-body practices, Dr. Cousineau shows us how to listen inwardly, loosen the grip of perfectionisms grasp, befriend and care for our inner critic, and transform old, protective patterns to experience ease, wholeness and joy in this human life.
Beth Kurland, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of You Dont Need to Change to Change Everything

Tara Cousineaus perfectionism has paid off! First, she has normalized perfectionism. It is a drive in all of us. She is masterful in showing readers how to harness this natural force so your life will be more balanced, happier, and more successfulas close to perfect as wise guidance is likely to bring you.
Donna Eden and David Feinstein, Ph.D., co-authors of Energy Medicine: Balancing Your Bodys Energies for Optimal Health, Joy and Vitality

Dr. Tara Cousineau helps you open your heart, love abundantly, and foremost find vitality and meaning in this precious journey of life. She helps to make a transition from empty achievement to a vibrant sense of contribution.
Lisa Miller, Ph.D., Professor, Columbia University and author of The Awakened Brain

A users manual for anyone walking around with a nervous system. What sets this book apart is its warmth, wisdom, and belief in human potential.
Terri Trespicio, author of Unfollow Your Passion: How to Create a Life that Matters to You

This beautiful book imparts diverse insights about perfectionism, weaving together clinical psychology and neuroscience, to help people overcome their harsh inner critic and develop a greater sense of self-compassion.
Shauna Shapiro, author of Good Morning, I Love You

Author Bio

Tara Cousineau, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, staff psychologist at Harvard University's Counseling and Mental Health Services, and author of The Kindness Cure- How the Science of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart and Your World (New Harbinger Publications 2018). She is professionally trained in mind-body medicine, mindfulness, mindful self-compassion, and innovative psychological methods, including energy psychology and Internal Family Systems. Learn more at www.taracousineau.com.