From Self-Care to We-Care: The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart
By (Author) Jordan Quaglia
Shambhala Publications Inc
Shambhala Publications Inc
10th June 2025
6th May 2025
United States
General
Non Fiction
158.13
Paperback
288
Width 140mm, Height 216mm
Learn to harmonize self-care with caring for others through we-care, a science-based approach designed to enhance personal and social well-being, promote healthy boundaries, and offer a path of healing and transformation. Learn to balance and blend self-care and care for others through we-care, a science-backed compassion training that enhances personal and social well-being, promotes healthy boundaries, and offers a path of healing and growth. Helping professionals and empaths commonly find themselves burning out, overextended in their care for others. Yet few people feel there's too much compassion in our society, and an overly strong focus on self-care can lead to unskillfulness when faced with interpersonal challenges and a lack of responsiveness to systemic social issues. The emerging science and practice of we-care embraces and transcends the principles of self-care in order to emphasize the inherently social nature of care. From this perspective, care is not a zero-sum game that will inevitably lead to self-indulgence for some and burnout for others, but rather an inherently social force that drives mutually beneficial outcomes. Yet we-care is more than a concept-it is a practical framework and set of tools to offer a more expansive view of care. Compassion researcher and teacher Jordan Quaglia guides you through questions such as, "Do you ever feel the urge to take away other people's pain and discomfort, no matter the potential personal costs" and "Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the pain and suffering of the world or by specific challenging situations" to discover your care tendencies, explore their strengths and weaknesses, and find a more balanced way to express your innate sense of compassion for yourself, others, and the world. As you're exposed to cutting-edge scientific research, practical insights, and personal stories, you'll discover your own unique balance of self-care and care for others across diverse situations. On this meaningful journey, you can positively transform your health, relationships, work, and every facet of your life.
Combining neuroscience and contemplative practice, Jordan Quaglia offers quantitative backing for the felt experience of our interconnected naturecompassion and care become far more potent when they are extended not only to ourselves but to a broader circle of we.
Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Life
From Self-Care to We-Care challenges our fundamental assumptions about the relationship between self-care and caring for others. By weaving together research, personal insights, and practical wisdom, this groundbreaking book offers readers powerful tools for transforming their relationships and approach to care. Essential reading for anyone seeking deeper understanding of human connection and the nature of human flourishing.
Cortland Dahl, PhD, author of A Meditators Guide to Buddhism and creator of the Healthy Minds Program app
JORDAN QUAGLIA has spent over a decade researching and teaching on topics such as mindfulness, compassion, and lucidity. He is an associate professor of psychology at Naropa University, where he directs the Cognitive and Affective Science Laboratory and is research director for its Center for the Advancement of Contemplative Education. A recognized expert in the science of compassion, he has been designated as a research fellow by the Mind & Life Institute, a Contemplative Social Justice Scholar for Contemplative Mind in Society, and a panelist for multiple United Nations Day of Vesak conferences. In addition to his research, Jordan co-developed and regularly teaches an eight-week compassion training curriculum for hundreds of individuals. He lives with his wife in Boulder, Colorado.