When a Brother or Sister Dies: Looking Back, Moving Forward

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The trauma of losing a sibling when we are in our adult years is one of the most unrecognized and undertreated areas of psychology. There is no other loss in adult life that appears to be so neglected as the death of a brother or sister, says bereavement specialist and psychologist, Therese Rando. And Rando is just one expert author Berman interviews in this moving book about loss. We see here how, when an adult dies, the parents, spouse, and children of that person become the focus, but brothers and sisters most often fall to the sidelines and are left to find a way to deal with the grief and recover alone. Yet, when a brother or sister dies, we lose our longest lifetime companion, someone with whom we have shared an intimate family history. And, in most cases, that was someone for whom we had conflicted feelings: shared identity yet competitive feelings, pride yet jealousy, love yet hate. Most of us come to make peace with the relationship at some point. How to make peace with the death of the sibling - which can conjure up a well of feelings, from wishing you were closer to wanting to change some past events you shared - can haunt an adult. But author Claire Berman, who lost her own sister to heart disease in the week of September 11, 2001, when America lost its innocence, takes us into the emotional world of sibling loss, showing us how to understand and navigate the aftermath of a loss that can leave adults feeling angry, confused, guilty, empty, or just like Berman, wanting to hit that speed dial button still marked with her sister's name.

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Recommended. All readers. * Choice *
The many case histories, woven together here in a compelling narrative, come from social workers, doctors, nurses, psychologists, and clergy as well as from the siblings themselves. . . . The writing is authentic, nuanced, compassionate, and definitely plows 'new ground'. Recommended for public, parish, and seminary libraries. * Catholic Library World *

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Claire Berman, is a freelance writer, former Director of Public Education for the Child Welfare League of America, and former Executive Council member for the American Society of Journalists and Authors. Specializing in writing about the emotional dimensions of family relationships, she has authored or co-authored eight books, and her articles have appeared in publications including Reader's Digest, McCall's, Family Circle, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and The New York Times Magazine. Berman has appeared on the Today show and has been featured in People magazine.