Do Ask, Do Tell: Queer Life, Love and Culture Laid Bare
By (Author) Lotte Jeffs
By (author) Stu Oakley
Pan Macmillan
Bluebird
27th May 2025
29th May 2025
United Kingdom
General
Non Fiction
LGBTQ+ Studies / topics
Gender studies: trans, transgender people and gender variance
306.76
Hardback
272
Width 153mm, Height 234mm
What is a black cat lesbian Is 'aromantic' a sexuality or a preference How are bisexual and pansexual different What's it like to be queer and religious Does Gen Z do darkrooms How do you navigate life as a OAQ (Old Age Queer) What does trans euphoria feel like Why is nightlife so central to the community What is camp today As queer people themselves, authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley knew they didn't have all the answers, because their individual experience represents a single pixel of the rainbow. Do Ask, Do Tell is an unapologetically curious journey through the dazzling spectrum of queer life that will give people - queer, straight, cis and everything in-between - the confidence to say 'I don't know'. With humor, warmth, and radically open minds, Stu and Lotte tackle the questions you may have avoided asking for fear of getting it wrong. Covering everything from ageing to open relationships, darkrooms to Drag Kings, camp to carabinas, as well as the intricacies of gender and sexuality. This insightful and provocative exploration challenges assumptions, shatters taboos, and opens up the conversation. Whether you're seeking clarity for your cis straight self or deeper insight as a member of the community, this book is your guide to better understanding and celebrating the richness of queer life.
Written with warmth, wisdom and uncompromising wit, Jeffs & Oakley invite us to explore the bold and beautiful realities of queer existence in an ever-increasingly intolerant world. -- Charlie Condou
Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley are the authors of The Queer Parent and hosts of the award-winning Some Families, the UK's leading LGBTQ+ parenting podcast. Lotte is a leading journalist and author of acclaimed novel This Love and children's book My Magic Family. Stu Oakley is a film publicist and occasional freelance journalist, having written for The Guardian, Grazia, ELLE and Attitude. In his day job he has worked on some of the biggest film franchises of all time including Star Wars, Harry Potter and Jurassic World.