He/She/They: How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters

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A much-needed guide to understanding gender, becoming a better trans ally, and making the world a better place Gender is a human experience, not just a trans experience. Every single one of us has a relationship to gender, so how can we change the way we talk about it, challenge misconceptions, and become better allies Schuyler Bailar is the first transgender athlete to compete on the Harvard University Swim team. His difficult choice - to transition while potentially giving up the prospect of being a national champion - was historic. HE/SHE/THEY will provide readers with essential trans and gender literacy through empowering and informative stories from his own experiences, and those of other trans and non-binary individuals around the world. This urgent, hopeful guide will cover everything from understanding what gender is and how to talk about it, to gender in the world and how to be a better ally. HE/SHE/THEY will provide readers - no matter age or gender - with the language, education, and tools needed to help make the world a better, kinder, and safer place for all trans and gender diverse people. 2020 and 2021 saw record-breaking instances of anti-trans legislation worldwide - and the highest rates of anti-trans violence on record. HE/SHE/THEY will inspire much-needed positive change and encourage and enable personal reflection and exploration so that every human can be the most compassionate, most authentic version of themselves - and importantly, become better trans allies in the process.

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"This book is informative, fabulous to read, and leaves the reader with information, joy and proactive ways to get involved in what is one of the most important human rights conversations of our time. I love this book & Schuyler, you will too!" * Jonathan Van Ness, New York Times bestselling author, podcaster, comedian, and television personality *
"Schuyler was the first trans person I ever followed on social media. He/She/They reminded me of why I hit that follow button years ago- because of Schuyler's ability to speak on gender in non-intimidating ways. I wish I had this book to guide my own journey years ago, but I am so glad it exists now. We need it!" * Dylan Mulvaney, actress, comedian, TikTok personality *
"It's a stark sign of what trans people are still up against that this book is so necessary, almost ten years after Laverne Cox appeared on the cover of Time magazine. But I know I speak for trans people everywhere when I say, no one is better suited to this than Schuyler. He is the master of accessible, inclusive and entertaining explainers" -- Freddy McConnell, author and journalist
"Schuyler is a wonderful role model for so many trans people who are passionate, loving and kind in this world. He/She/They is a beautiful, embracing, and compassionate book for those wanting to explore their own, or another's gender identity. I know so many trans people will be eternally grateful for Schuyler Bailar's work, including this brilliant book" -- Jamie Windust, Author & Broadcaster, Contributing Editor at Gay Times
"Through this heart-holding educational memoir, Schuyler Bailar swims through a sea of hate and misinformation - preaching love and learning. Schuyler's words seek to challenge power and connect to those who really need it. And that's what we need right fucking now" -- Radam Ridwan (@radamridwan), trans non-binary content creator, author of 'The Lockdown Lookbook'

Author Bio

Schuyler Bailar is a top social media LGBTQ+ educator and advocate, and a leading DEI speaker and advisor with clients that include Capital One, Microsoft, and hundreds of other organisations, colleges, and schools. He is the first transgender athlete to compete on Harvard University's winningest Swim team at NCAA level. His difficult choice - to transition while potentially giving up the prospect of being a national champion - was historic. His advocacy earned him LGBTQ Nation's Instagram Advocate for 2020 and he has nearly 400k social media followers.