A Nice Guy Like Me: A Memoir

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A no-holds-barred look at the last golden age of gay studio porn before the DIY OnlyFans revolution, A Nice Guy Like Me is one man's tale of finding industry stardom almost overnight-and how his demons caught up to him at the height of his success.

As a child and a young adult, Spencer was raised on adventure. From moving to and living in South Africa at six years-old to becoming a 'boy toy' in London at the age of 19, he was exposed to feelings of wonder and excitement and to the rewards and lessons of taking chances.

When his 17 year relationship ended at the age of 36, with a single email and attached photos, his life changed forever. Within two weeks he became an exclusive for Titan Media, the premier gay adult film company, and then spent the next 30 months as Spencer Quest finding himself at the pinnacle of the industry, on DVD and magazine covers, winning industry awards, and headlining a show off-Broadway.

But his childhood was also filled with feelings of fear, abandonment and an understanding that, even at the age of seven and against his will, his body held power over men. During his short career in the adult industry, his past began to emerge, traumas remembered, and he began a descent back into a world of addiction, mental health challenges including severe episodes of self-hatred and self-harm that had haunted him all this life.

More than just a porn memoir, A Nice Guy Like Me is a journey of life, a "heroic journey" to the author, one he believes is similar to everyone else's. Filled with pain and joy, desperation and hope, and, of course, sex, the memoir offers deep vulnerability and a ruthless self-examination of the choices made in life, their subsequent consequences, and the lessons that emerge.

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"A gritty, revealing look at the troubled, eventful life of an adult film star." "Get it" says Kirkus Reviews

"An unputdownable account of what it was like to become an instant star at the very end of the studio era of gay porn in the early 2000's--but more than that, a deeply searching account of going through the stages of hell to find one's authentic self."--Tim Murphy, author of Christodora

"[A] remarkably, unflinchingly candid and beautifully wrought book..(an) achingly beautiful expos of how the wounds we carry in life can bring us radical adventures .....and immeasurable heart-break. A compulsive and moving read." Doug Wright, Tony Award and Pulitzer Prize winning playwright

Author Bio

Spencer Keasey received his Master's of Arts in Teaching at the University of Pittsburgh in 1992. Since then he's worked several jobs including as a high school English teacher, mediator, fitness instructor, athletic director, educational grant coordinator, Vermont Department of Education consultant, and HIV outreach and testing counselor. He currently serves as the director of an art gallery and auction house specializing in historic Provincetown art. He has called Provincetown home for nearly 2 decades and continues to explore his creative side as a musician, artist, actor, and now, writer. This is his first book. He lives a charmed life with his husband and cats.