Dear Bi Men: A Black Perspective on Breaking Down Binaries, Navigating Power and Consent, and Finding Liberation

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An unapologetic guide for readers who are Black, masc, and bi-unlearning biphobia, coming out, combatting erasure, and embodying your whole self Through cutting social analysis, personal stories, and need-to-know advice, Dear Bi Men reclaims bi+ visibility in a culture of erasure-and unapologetically centers Blackness in a practical and deeply researched guide to navigating life, work, and relationships as a Black bi+ man. Popular representation of bi and pansexual men is growing, but we're not there yet- It's mostly white. It collapses bisexual identity into tired, hypersexualized tropes. And it fails to interrogate the deeply entrenched stereotypes that insist- You're confused. You just don't know you're gay. You're greedy. You must be great in bed. Author, peer counselor, and creator of #bisexualmenspeak J.R. Yussuf pushes back against these stigmas and misconceptions, exploring how white supremacy reinforces biphobia and dictates what society thinks it means to "be a man." He contextualizes discourse around queerness and bisexuality within a larger framework that honors readers' intersecting identities. And he offers deeply practical advice, sharing how to- Unlearn internalized biphobia and homophobiaNavigate an increasingly hostile digital landscapeThink about coming out- who to tell, why to tell them, and how to do itFight back against erasure and stigmaNavigate sex, dating, partnerships, marriage, friendship, and workUnderstand your bi+ sexuality through a political lensProcess Black bi+ representation Rich with personal narratives, insightful analysis, and practical advice, this book is a powerful resource for Black bi+ men to reclaim their identity, counter biphobia, and get empowered-and an offering to all readers looking to fight back against the erasure and dehumanization wrought by patriarchy.

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J.R. Yussuf is the 1st place winner of the Reviewers Choice Award in the self-help category for The Other F Word- Forgiveness. Yussuf created the Twitter hashtag #BisexualMenSpeak (Human Rights Campaign, Cassius, Bi.org) for bisexual+ men and masculine identified folks to have the space to speak for themselves and talk about how being bisexual+ impacts the way they move through the world, and maintains a YouTube channel devoted to self-improvement, emotional intelligence and bisexuality. Yussuf's writing has appeared in the anthologies Best Bi Short Stories- Bisexual Fiction, finalist for a 2014 Lambda Literary Award and a 2014 Rainbow Award, and Double Consciousness- An Autoethnographic Guide To My Black American Existence, as well as Men's Health, Thrive Global, Black Youth Project, Wear Your Voice Magazine, Queerty, Queer Majority, Positively Positive, The Good Men Project, Escarp, Instigatorzine, and The CultureLP.