Family Unfriendly: How Our Culture Made Raising Kids Much Harder Than It Needs To Be
By (Author) Timothy P. Carney
HarperCollins Publishers Inc
HarperCollins
31st July 2024
United States
General
Non Fiction
Age groups: children
Dating, relationships, living together and marriage: advice and issues
Parenting: advice and issues
Christian life and practice
Urban and municipal planning and policy
Self-help, personal development and practical advice
Central / national / federal government policies
Society and culture: general
649.1
Hardback
368
Width 160mm, Height 235mm, Spine 25mm
498g
The bestselling author of Alienated America traveled the country asking families and experts the same questions: why is parenting so much harder even though the kids are less happy than than a generation ago
Parenting seems harder these days, and Millennials and Generation Z dont seem up for it. Why Its easy to blame cost or selfishness, but kids have long been an economic drag, and adults have always been selfish. The question is: Whats changed The answer is culture. Our culture is less friendly to parenting that it used to be, and should be.
When we were kids, no one was watching us every moment. That was a good thing: it meant our parents felt confident in the society around us.
That was the past. Today, the mode of parenting is about hypercontrol. Kids must constantly be cosseted, entertained, trained, scheduled, and catechized as little activists and influencers. Timothy P. Carney argues that we need to lighten up and return to the virtues of old-fashioned parenting. We need to give kids space to both fail and succeed, to have adventures and gain unexpected knowledge and enjoy unscheduled time.
This means escaping the travel-team trap, abandoning helicopter parenting, strengthening communities, changing the workplace, and ultimately restoring the belief that humansadults, kids, and babiesare good.
Its no wonder birth rates have dropped, and that our kids are suffering unprecedented anxiety and depression. Our culture sets unreasonable standards for parents, diminishes the value of family, and makes us feel bad for existing.
Drawing on rigorous researchboth as a reporter and as a dad of sixCarney demonstrates why modern parenting is so misguided. The high standards set for modern American parenting are unrealistic and setting parentsand our kidsup to fail.
Timothy P. Carney is the commentary editor at the Washington Examiner and a visiting fellow at the American Enterprise Institute. He is the author of The Big Ripoff: How Big Business and Big Government Steal Your Money and Obamanomics: How Barack Obama is Bankrupting You and Enriching His Wall Street Friends, Corporate Lobbyists, and Union Bosses.